Photo credit: Picture by Steve Johnson on Unsplash.You’re most likely only a lesbian.” I do not understand of a bi that is single that hasn’t heard those terms, or even a variation of these. Therefore typical is this dismissal of y our identification, it appears as one or more bullet point in every listicle about ‘what to not tell a bi person’. Why do we nevertheless keep hearing it?
Recently, Twitter has exploded with memes from bi women about being drawn to all women and, like, possibly 3 males.
It seems the meme is just relatable content about sexism and overcoming compulsory heterosexuality (the enforced idea that everyone must be straight) while I worry that this meme may be a manifestation of internalized biphobia and a desire for bi women to prove we’re gay enough, mostly. Inside her wonderful essay “Bisexuality, Feminism, guys, and Me”, bi activist Robyn Ochs covers her journey of unlearning compulsory heterosexuality, and keeping gents and ladies into the exact exact same standard with regards to relationships and attraction after a lifetime of believing she must be satisfied with a guy;
We understood that inside our culture women can be grateful when a guy behaves in a manner that is sensitive but expect sensitiveness of a lady as a matter of course. I made a decision that I would personally maybe not be satisfied with less from guys, realizing so it implies that i might be categorically eliminating most males as prospective lovers. So be it.
But also for each one of these viral tweets that jokingly express the thought of eliminating males, there is another telling the initial poster that that is a lesbian experience and therefore the poster is obviously a lesbian (not bi). Continue reading “We recognized that within our culture ladies are grateful whenever a guy behaves in a sensitive and painful manner”